Our Honest Opinion About Pastor Funke Adejumo’s Statements About Housewives
Pastor Funke Felix-Adejumo, while preaching to women on the importance of financial independence made some statement that have caused a stir and sparked the “stay at home or go to work” debate yet again.
Many mothers have had to deal with this question at one point or the other, and it has also been a hot subject at the heart of a fierce debate in many homes and in the society for decades.
Some people call it housewife, some call it homemaker, some call it stay-at-home mum.
Is it wrong to be one? Well, the truth is, there are no right or wrong answers to this. It all depends on your situation and what works best for you.
Being a housewife does not mean you will automatically have the best children and home, there are many career women who have been able to raise better children and homes in spite of their work. Being a career or business woman also does not automatically mean you will have financial buoyancy or fulfilment in life. There are some housewives who are more financially buoyant and happier in their lives than some working women.
As expected, so many concerns come to mind before making a decision on whether to work or stay at home and these are a few of the questions we think women should ask themselves before they make that choice;
Is this what I really want do? Will this be a temporary arrangement or a permanent one? Can we adequately meet our needs one person’s income? Is there any provision for personal allowance or ICE funds for me? If anything happens to my husband, is there a financial plan for me and the kids? Will I find this fulfilling without feeling like I am missing out on anything? Does this align with my life’s purpose? What will I do with my skills, talent, interests etc? In years to come will I look back and be happy I made the best decision? Is this marriage worth making sacrifices for? If I try this and it doesn’t work, can I go back to work or have a business? etc
How do women weigh the pros and cons of their choices, and what influences the final decisions to determine which one is good enough for them and their families? It depends on many factors.
But whatever your decision is, you have to be kind on yourself, and also be kind on other women who may not have made the same choice as you have.
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You are married for instance and all you do is have sex and give birth to children and cook good meals, I pity you because full time house wives is full time suffering PLC. So you better do something about your life.
If the totality of your life is dependent on your husband, you are a colossal disgrace. No man wants a liability around him, every man wants a asset. You should be your husband think tank.
Your husband calls you and say give me a cheque of one million, I’ll give you back in three days and you say “hey, you want to kill me, where do I want to get it?” You are a failure. Fingers are not equal, must your own be the shortest?
Do something with your life, don’t be blind. There are opportunities around you. There are people that are wearing as gold, the houses they should have built. Wearing dresses because they want to look like Mrs Alakija or Mrs Adefarasin. You don’t eat with ten fingers, you save. You give to God and you give to yourself.
